The Not So Perfect Wife

My journey as a wife has not always been easy. There have been many rough and bumps in the road, and quite a few turbulence. I never expected marriage to be easy-peasy-lemon-squeezy, and I knew that it would take a lot of work to maintain a healthy and harmonious relationship.

Your spouse is your #1 priority...

Just YOU and I!

Now with a baby and a job, it can be easy to forget about making each other a priority. Honestly, I unintentionally get off my track as a wife/housewife sometimes. And depressingly, my husband notices my shortcomings. I feel awful. Though I do not like to be reminded of my imperfections, I am taking these bumps as  warning signs that I am in trouble. I guess this is the best time for me to contemplate my own imperfections as a wife. 

These aren’t life-shattering issues but I should not ignore them and pretend nothing is wrong.  I don't want to create a wall between the two of us, and emotionally, not be connected in the same way. 

I read somewhere about five commitments every marriage needs to survive and grow. These are commitments both partners should make:

• I am committed to learning everything I can about being a better person and a better mate, and I will do whatever it takes to make the relationship work.
• I am committed to being emotionally open to and with my partner by sharing my feelings.
• I am committed to being emotionally generous with my partner, not emotionally stingy, and will express my love and affection.
• I am committed to being honest with my partner and myself.
• I am committed to learning how to love my partner as much as he or she truly deserves to be loved.

Frankly, I don't know how any relationship can be truly healthy without these commitments + your commitment to find time to connect with God. And that No matter how busy life gets, we MUST find time to get alone with Him. Making this time with God a priority is not being selfish, it’s being wise.

Being in God’s Word does wonders for our connection. With Christ as our center, we have more of a desire to put each other first. 

TBC...